GOOD WOMAN/BAD WOMAN…CONCUBINES NO MORE!
Where does the problem lie?? Or is it a problem at all !!
The city woman has ‘raised’ the quality life for herself , stepping out of her comfort zone and testing her strengths..The New Woman is capable of fending for herself and does not necessarily live for a man or because of one…The last 20 years have seen a marked improvement in the way of life for a woman with education taking leaps in our country.
However, with the massive divide that we have now of big cities and the smaller places and villages, where a Woman’s sexuality has often been suppressed either as a matter of control or as a social norm, a REPLICA of modern woman in their understanding would be equated to the ‘lower’ woman. She remains in the mind of the majority of such men and people, a ‘Concubine’ who as a matter of right has to remain under a man’s control, for his appreciation, for his approval and dependent on him. The wives had a different place and a different responsibility.The ‘other’ stuff was the responsibility of the Concubine..The levels of respect were different ..In that mind, as he knows the ‘divide’ between women already exists..There is a good woman and there is a bad woman. In many ways it seems, that their condemnation of anything modern, more expressive sexually in women, in straightaway equated to that line of thought.
The definitions are ‘existing’These segments remain in a state of ‘denial’ or even ‘understanding’ about the change that has already set in which is also setting the aspirations of the smaller town men and women and why not? They may not have the resources, they may not have the support but aspirations have set in. From the Village to the Cities, people have traveled, aspirations have traveled but the mindsets remain back there. And the ‘CONFLICT’ is so visible today..Then there is a ‘middle ground’ which has its foot in every place, in Indian culture, some values- not all, the comforts of the modern way of being, aspirations, films, TV etal..who have neither moved upfront, nor are they fully in the background..They try to latch on to the ‘good’ everywhere, condemning what they feel is ‘bad’..sometimes just at convenience.Media has played a ‘definitive’ rolethere..Just as the Internet brought the World closer, Media has made different sides of India ‘VISIBLE’ to each other..The intention obviously was not what we are seeing today..but the IMPACT is now visible..
The ‘new’ side, which shows ‘new possibilities’ to people for themselves or their growth or their money condition is ‘obviously’ far more interesting vis a vis the ‘cultural’ aspects that we see as documentaries and forget.How many of us will go to a Theatre to watch a documentary on Indian culture..How many of us switch to a channel which is talking how great our country is..The answer is obvious ! The cities are looking for ways to de-stress and the smaller towns are aspiring for the same life, in the hope of betterment..That is ‘visible’ betterment for the human eye and mind.Let us not forget , we are a poor country, the rich and poor divide is only getting bigger.Anything, that will show a possibility will be received with much more ‘gusto’ than something which doesn’t. All talk of values therefore is pushed behind the scenes and physical takes over..Things are to be seen to be believed..THEY ARE BEING BELIEVED ! And when it goes wrong…
The big hue and cry about sex and the influence of films sounds overstretched. They would not be selling if we were not watching them.Every product today is sold by a Film Actor, majority of the advertisements are being endorsed by known faces.Every Reality Show on TV has people from all over the country lining up for that one opportunity and aspirations.To say the least some opportunities have been created and every person who has the courage to try must get those opportunities. Since when did films or media become sources of either education or knowledge? They were meant to be for fun and entertainment. Yes, they can influence a child’s mind, but does an ‘adult’ also remain an ‘impressionable’ mind? To some extent ,Yes, the uneducated mind has a higher probability too. Films show ‘flying’ cars, where does that happen, they show jumping of trains and planes, where does that happen, who on earth ever romances while singing on streets or in jungles..or does a jig and suddenly 100 supporting dancers appear from no where dancing to the same steps and the song, who hangs out of helicopters…:-) By the same logic, sex and romance is also a bit unreal..We have ‘accepted’ the unreal as real..instead of remaining ‘REAL’. Blaming ‘films’ is not the answer..Now with the internet, we should not be too bothered about them. Do they mirror society?? Not really, they potray the Pollyana, do people want to see reality?? No they don’t..People like to see fun, they want to have fun, they want to be entertainment and with other forms of finer entertainment, too expensive and people still being underexposed to them, Films are easier to watch and access. And they are fun, songs are fun, dances are so much fun, style is fun, trends are fun, catchphrases are fun..so why can we not have fun and sleep over them..Yes,they have to be socially responsible..In their World, their social responsibility is entertainment..Why does it work??? We don’t have enough FUN in real life?? There are too many judgments, too many do’s and dont’s ! Why can’t we ‘romance’ our own way???
A Car company spends millions to research and build a Car, but has a ‘swanky’ woman stand in front of it at the time of selling??? Why is that so??? Is it the ‘Concubine’ Mindset??? Is enjoyment of ‘that’ kind limited to ‘some’ kind of men and women???
At the moment, we do not have a ‘problem’, we are SOLVING a problem..Things have reached an ‘extreme’ from the Women’s perspective..and the ‘churning’ is on..the ‘transition’ is on..After this, we sure will have some changes, maybe not ‘all’ the solutions, but atleastsome..we will see ‘tangential impacts’ around us..awareness will increase..and work will begin to sensitize society..Society MAY REALIZE that WOMEN are not DEPENDENT on them, not in thought, not for the rest, that might cause an ‘upheavel’ in the World of men, maybe
Or is it, that the ‘beauty’ lies only in WOMEN..nowhere else ! That is a POWERFUL perspective !!!