HAPPINESS IS..BUT A CHOICE!
It ‘pains’ when happiness of any kind is questioned by those who do not understand it or have not seen enough of it.There is not enough of it in the World and trying to shadow happiness, questioning happiness, belittling happiness, calling it names, doubting happiness indicates a ‘way of life’ not quite happy in itself…But ‘happiness’ is as much a dream like any other..happiness is as much a destination as any other…
What is this happiness and why is it so rare to find?? Is there a method to happiness? Is there a definition?
Life brings all kinds of experience but the choice to ‘allow’ any experience to become a matter of unhappiness can be a conscious choice..though we accept every experience as an ultimate happening…weighing towards the sad side of life..Allowing that experience to define our minds as if that is the ‘only’ reality..failing to see ‘beyond’ and ‘above’..even though the Human Being possesses ‘functionality’, ‘discernability’ and choices..we do not make a choice to be happy…Often life is unfair, people are mean, unjust and un benevolent..Often God does not listen when you need him most and friends vanish when help is required. Often your closest people find ways to obstruct your way for the most frivolous reasons..Often you face what you feel you do not deserve…Often the World is harsh and often ‘happiness’ is the biggest ‘trade off’ that life has to exchange for living…Often we ‘ place’ pain as the biggest hurdle to happiness ..Pain causes unhappiness, but inspite of that, we can choose to not let that happen…Then the World is suffering, we pain to see a suffering World but we continue to remain ‘sad and gloomy’..Inspite of all this I suggest, we say..SO WHAT!!
Everyone says, you must be happy but no one tells ‘where’ to find this happiness..It’s quite simple..happiness is our own perception of the World..Our reactions to the existence of nature, its creations and its experiences..Is it not then a ‘choice of sorts’..Let us take a look at it..Nature remaining constant…All we have to deal with is ‘our own experiences’ and define them in ways that serve us better…Yes, the outside involvement remains as a support system or a obstruction system,mental, emotional or physical…either way strengthening our own resolve to ‘be’ and to keep moving forward..We might fall, but we will get up..we can still define an experience..We might succeed and be elated..we can still define the experience..But we let the ‘Worldviews’ rule our views…And based on ‘Worldviews’ , we continue to define all that we see..
So, then happiness is quite a simple thing..One can ‘choose to happy’..Not that sadness does not exist, there is enough to be sad and there is probably not enough to be happy in the big picture..In this circumstance, life tells us that ‘Happiness is to be created, by ‘distorting’ reality and ‘recreating’ the same reality into something that can be called ‘happiness’ vis a vis self..It is never about outsiders, never about what they say or do..but ‘how’ you can maintain that state inspite of everything positive or negative..No praise or criticism causes happiness..It is your response to self when you are praised or criticized that causes happiness..Being a football of people’s opinions will never bring happiness.Likewise , opinions will never bring anyone down either and kick someone around..Again..I suggest ,we say ..SO WHAT!!
Happiness can be shared, not ‘explained’..to anyone..It is not about ‘expressing’ happiness, it is about your ‘commitment to yourself, loving your existence, the responsibility we have for our own well being”..for no one is under an obligation to bring happiness into our lives, except ourselves..And as it is so rare for people to make a conscious choice to remain in a state of happiness, it is also rare that people can fully relate to it..They probably do not know it..They see it as an ‘outside’ experience..fun, laughter, enjoyment and all the happy words..But ‘happiness’ is way bigger than all these things..These are just some of the expressions, can be experienced alone or with others…There are not many who choose consciously and somewhere there is also a sense of ‘appeal’ in being sad..as that has often been ‘awarded’ for being the ‘way of life’…that is also a ‘choice’ we have made..to make it a ‘way of life’..
Our body can be tuned into ‘happiness’..Heard of ‘thermostats’..yes, the body can be brought into that state..come what may, you will ‘find a way to find something positive in everything’..We need to consciously choose and allow nothing to ‘weed’ in the sadness..And the fun part, it turns around the worst conditions..you will always be able to find something positive in the most negative person or most negative talk..I manage to love my critics and naysayers as much as I can love my loved ones..I can see their positive sides too..
Interesting this thing called ‘Happiness’ ..Rare..but always a Choice..One thing is certain,happiness begets happiness, sadness begets sadness..The Choice is entirely OURS!!Keep Smiling, Keep Happy..Keep celebrating the good things in life..!Keep celebrating yourself ! Remember, you can be happy, just for yourself..irrespective of what the Worldview of that happiness is..!